Does This Bother Anyone Else?

I hate being referred to as a "Dependent Wife". I hate the term. T's friends use it, and call me it every now and again. They use it when I make appointments or when I talk to Military One Source. "Are you active duty or a Dependent?" YUCK!  I even hate the term Dependent. I am not Dependent on my husband. I can make it in this world perfectly fine without him (even though I cannot imagine being without the love of my life). Bleh, what happened to just being a wife? I guess you throw that out the window when you marry into the military...